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NOSTR Dads I’m going to share a thing.

My son is a real tornado. He’s mostly sweet but he’s probably the hardest-headed kid I’ve never met. He never relents once he’s decided what up. I’ve tried all kinds of things to calm him down, somethings sometimes work for me others for his mother. In any case, he was up late last night because we had a family function so he got very cranky and I tried to get him to go down and instead he Chun-Li bicycle kicked me from his crib into my face for about ten minutes and Honda hundred hand-slap parried his feet for as long as I could just trying to softly ask him why he was doing this kicking. I was impressed with my patience. In any case, I just started to pray over him, asking Jesus for help that really pissed him off which was interesting in its own right.

Then I just stopped and asked him if he needed a hug and he immediately calmed down stood up and squeezed me like his life depended on it. And I held him there for a while and then he laid down and I sung him to sleep with my hand on his chest.

I don’t know whether this is replicable, but I think I’ll never forget this moment in fatherhood.

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SuiGenerisJohn · 10w
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modulo · 10w
That is sweet—thanks for sharing
node · 10w
Patience and love. Children definitely respond to that
cuban · 10w
Men need love too ... also when my son starts acting out it has typically been a signal to me that he's ready for more responsibility
Leviticus Mathew · 10w
Life is hard. Hugs make it better. Hugs from Dad are extremely reassuring, and important for resetting after a normal routine has been disrupted. The gentle parenting thing didn't work for me. Ass whoppings when needed worked. (Haven't had to spank my kids in 6 years CAUSE IT WORKED) TALKING to...
kidwarp · 10w
Wow what a learning experience! But man I must have it really easy cuz my daughter has always just kinda passed right out when it’s bed time.
BlueWizard · 10w
Join a dad’s group in your locale. Check your local email list-serv. Dads need support FRFR
𝖓𝖔𝖊𝖗𝖒𝖘 · 10w
Thanks for sharing
Corey San Diego · 10w
You have more patience than me. Luckily my older is a girl and I'm much less likely to throw a girl through the wall.
David II · 10w
I believe he will settle at some point, probably not fully, but mostly. I was a lot like this, I was nightmare for family. 🤷🏻‍♂️
PalmEyeRa 🪬 · 10w
Humming works well too
Stacking Functions · 10w
Thanks for sharing. Our firstborn is the most strong willed child I've ever met. Definitely have to say prayers over him when it seems like he's possessed by something. Afterwards he's sweeter than hes ever been Many aspects of parenting feel like spirtual weight lifting 😆
Josh in FL · 10w
Prayer brought that hug, and you’ll never forget it.
lona · 10w
Hugging, caring, singing, humming.. Love is the answer!🧡 💜 🫶
Sats McNic · 10w
I've only been a dad for 20hrs, but I've learned quickly that shaking the baby real hard makes them stop crying and moving Maybe you could try that out?
arfonzo · 10w
Your son seems to have the same Street Fighter 2 moves as my daughter... Odd as she's never seen the game... Sometimes I also hit that point of exasperation where I'm just not sure what to do, they can be so stubborn when they've got something on their mind!
atyh · 10w
the praying/anger thing is interesting 🤔
Roboto · 10w
That's what we want a little bull not a steer!
Chris Liss · 10w
sounds like he has a lot of spirit!
Leurico8 · 10w
I have good advice on this. Ask the child if he need space or a hug. In portuguese this even rhyme. "Espaço ou abraço". Works wonders.
Isaac Delahaye · 10w
Very relatable :) I usually let him have his moment, tell him he’s always welcome to come back to me when he thinks he’s calmed down. Then we hug it out. Or I loose my calm 😂
purrs_for_Her · 10w
parenting is the hardest job ever and there's no script for it since each child is unique. the only consistent things are patience and love and boundaries. the little one can get big mad for seemingly little things. but they don't need logic, they need love. timing when to just let the emotions flo...
Zsubmariner · 10w
That's a fine bit of dadsmanship. Keep doing exactly what you're doing. Especially the patience and praying. Be patient with yourself too.
FernandoTheKoala · 10w
Love and support is really all that children need from parents