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raintrees (ancap in nw-cali) · 1w
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Soul Dessin · 1w
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Soul Dessin · 1w
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@nprofile1q... yikes. That has to be tough.

My father has a bad case of PTSD and occasionally has screaming fits in his sleep. He's most sane and manageable the rest of the time.

But his sleep has always been a tenuous thing. You didn't wake him up by touch. You just talked to him from the foot of the bed. If you touched him he might grab your arm and make you regret it
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Chromeratt · 1w
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Soul Dessin · 1w
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Can any medical professionals or paras out there tell me how to disassociate from the reality of dealing with my eighty-something parents and all their medical issues.

I'm not talking about shutting them out of denying them empathy or support. I mean how do I stop it from wearing me down. I've been at it 24 hours a day for almost three weeks and I'm not sure I can deal with it much longer.

We're starting conversations about care facilities but I'm not sure I will last that long.
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Sir Matt · 1w
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Fox [אΩ] · 1w
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🏴‍☠️CoramDeo🏴‍☠️ · 1w
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Viscountess Love & Light · 1w
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Viscountess Love & Light · 1w
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Chromeratt · 1w
Thanks everyone for the input. I appreciate the ideas and well wishes. And especially the "love and light ©"
Soul Dessin · 1w
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