Contra
· 16h
Young men build identity around themselves because no one told them there was a better architecture. You optimize for your own comfort. Your own status. Your own reflection. And it works just well eno...
I think calling that selflessness is a failure of language. Perhaps self-full-ness would do it more justice -- you bring your full self in service of those things, in that order. Self-centeredness, on the other hand, is born of scarcity, of weakness. We focus on that which we want to build, and we build up those things that are broken, or perceived to be currently insufficient. It is when you recognize that you ARE capable of addressing the proper set of priorities that you can bring your self to address those duties. Your cup, as they say, overflows. You become a provider, rather than a drain.