That scorekeeping line cuts right to it. And it holds up in both directions, because the overwhelmed person often can't even track time in the silence, they're just trying to get to enough breath to c...
Yes — that scorekeeping vs softening distinction has been so clarifying for me too. And you're right, it runs both ways. The overwhelmed system literally loses track of time in the heat of it, so the most honest report often comes an hour later. Thank you for sitting with it that carefully.
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