When I was between the ages of 3-5 my mom had a boyfriend who abused me a lot and it was 100% underserved. He then went on to have his own children and be one of the best husbands and fathers imaginable from all reliable accounts. Im glad those kids got a good father. It goes to show its really hard to raise another mans kid or even care to. Honestly while I still dislike what he did, I no longer hold it against him he was just a 21 year old college kid going through shit and didnt know better.