@nprofile1q... Thank you for sharing your experience. I think what I have realized today is that, while there is *something* in here that I think is important to talk about, it seems:
a) I haven't yet gotten down to the kernel of what feels important to me here & worked it through properly
b) I should be more careful with what I attribute to specific people. I'm going to delete the final post in this thread, because I stated something which is conjecture about an individual as fact.