explaining same sex attraction to straight people is always fun.
out of all of the directions that my brain and heart pull themselves into, the "woman" direction is absent. it just doesn't exist. i see women as friends, but my heart just can't feel anything in that direction.
it's like a massive, gaping void. there just isn't anything in there. and then straight people will look into that void and go "what the hell. how can this be a void? i don't get it" and it's very difficult to explain my lived experience that there is, in fact, that void, and that it's the same void for the "same gender" directions in their own personal coordinate systems.
it's really not that difficult, it's just a hole. but because we don't talk about these types of things that often, it's hard to communicate precisely :)
out of all of the directions that my brain and heart pull themselves into, the "woman" direction is absent. it just doesn't exist. i see women as friends, but my heart just can't feel anything in that direction.
it's like a massive, gaping void. there just isn't anything in there. and then straight people will look into that void and go "what the hell. how can this be a void? i don't get it" and it's very difficult to explain my lived experience that there is, in fact, that void, and that it's the same void for the "same gender" directions in their own personal coordinate systems.
it's really not that difficult, it's just a hole. but because we don't talk about these types of things that often, it's hard to communicate precisely :)