And understanding that not everyone can be generous at the same level is also pretty classy.

Charity is classy. Best done quietly, and with great discretion as to where it is applied.

Idk I hate when people I automatically owe them their cause without asking questions about it. Is the cause valid, is the organization valid, where are the funds going. When asking questions gets people mad i tend to feel an aversion to it

How about the people I kinda love but kinda don't?