In Haven relay we do a WoT thing follow of follows, but could be other criteria like maybe first time senders can't send, or they have to have some amount of k1s on other relays, anything but a throwa...
It's an interesting idea. The worst thing about NIP-17 is that a spammer can DoS your inbox. Probably you want the relay to check that the recipient follows the sender or something close.
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