I agree. But first you have to work out what no-longer-helpful childhood strategies need to be overcome. Therefore you can not avoid looking at your childhood. Not in a 'blame someone' way, but in a way that says OK - I act as an adult like 'this', which no longer serves me, because when I was younger, 'this' was my survival strategy. And then it's on you as an adult to change what's needed. And to forgive our parents their sins, in the hope that our children will forgive us our sins. Cos all parents fuck up. Cos they are human.