@nprofile1q... Thank you for venting and making visible what's wrong in our shared public space. I wish there wasn't a need to, but alas…
I'd love for you stick around and be yourself, and have a good time here, and continue to rock the boat whenever you see the need, but your well-being is more important, so whatever you feel is right, more power to you!
We all can't just make the assholery disappear entirely (and moderation tools are merely reactive), but please remember that while they are loud and hurtful, they aren't that many (just loud), and we are here for you.