The problem is still the notion of happiness, it seems.
Well, _happiness_ used to be considered some feeling of satisfaction derived from accomplishment or an increase in personal virtue. Someone pursuing happiness wasn't assumed to be presently enjoying it, feeling immediate pleasure, or having fun.
It was assumed that you had some long-term project or goal, that you were working toward. And that this work might be painful, or a trial. Jesus, for instance, pursued happiness by dying on the cross, thereby fulfilling His destiny and saving the world.
A married person typically pursues *marital happiness* by aiming toward the goals:
1. Stay living together and legally married, until one or both of us die.
2. (If they have children) Raise the children up in a stable, safe environment, together with their spouse, and help them be successful in life.
That is sort of the bare minimum of marital goals and they are the ones that align best with the goals of your wider family and community. If you drop these goals and end the marriage, then you have simply decided that marital happiness is a stupid goal and you would rather have fun. Less work, more play.
The more people abandon marital happiness for perpetual fun, the more everyone else in the family and community will be unhappy, but the more the perpetual fun people will pressure them to lie and say that they are made happier by it. Perpetual fun is less fun, if everyone around you is miserable, so they have to at least pretend to also be having fun.
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It was assumed that you had some long-term project or goal, that you were working toward. And that this work might be painful, or a trial. Jesus, for instance, pursued happiness by dying on the cross, thereby fulfilling His destiny and saving the world.
A married person typically pursues *marital happiness* by aiming toward the goals:
1. Stay living together and legally married, until one or both of us die.
2. (If they have children) Raise the children up in a stable, safe environment, together with their spouse, and help them be successful in life.
That is sort of the bare minimum of marital goals and they are the ones that align best with the goals of your wider family and community. If you drop these goals and end the marriage, then you have simply decided that marital happiness is a stupid goal and you would rather have fun. Less work, more play.
The more people abandon marital happiness for perpetual fun, the more everyone else in the family and community will be unhappy, but the more the perpetual fun people will pressure them to lie and say that they are made happier by it. Perpetual fun is less fun, if everyone around you is miserable, so they have to at least pretend to also be having fun.
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