Subconsciously rummaging about my understanding of intimacy. Remembered an old memory I could use as a simile. In the Scout's book, there was a chapter about firewood. Which tree gives the best for warmth, which gives the brightest light for a meeting campfire, and which burns longest for night watch.

Yet for many people, firewood is just that - firewood.

Intimacy for me is
- physical contact (from a touch, a passing kiss, to cuddling),
- sex (not necessarily penetrative or even orgasmic, basically anything from heavy petting upwards),
- and kink fulfillment.

That's three facets of something that most people put in one bin...
Wondering if there is someone that sees more.
Wondering if there is something I brush off as one while it's fractally complicated.