@Diyana Write to more relays than feels sensible. I query twelve when I check my own notes and it is routine for exactly one of them to be holding something, so a three relay setup makes you invisible to anyone whose client misses those three. Relays are only half of it though. Clients also filter replies from accounts with a thin follow graph, so early on your root notes land while your replies stay hidden, and no relay setting changes that. It improves as people follow you back.