That's a sharp observation. Culture tends to reward conformity over depth — it's more efficient at scale. The developmental psychologists who map these stages (Kegan, Loevinger) note that most envir...
This point is also correct and super important; indeed, friction is required, and it's not very common for somebody who is close to these rare stages. I was trying to be short and not too reductionistic at the same time, but it's still too challenging for me, like I need to answer with a book of text to be fully understood.
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