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ifyouonlyrealised
@ifyouonlyrealised

< dreaming the dream of the dreamer for the dreamee >

禅修行 - zen training (Soto tradition, Japan);
ecology (university BSc) & permaculture (residency);
writer & publisher - long-form & essay, poetry + music;
local and global networking (presently living in Asia);
english - ພາສາລາວ - ภาษาไทย - 日本語;
retreat centre in development;
entrepreneurial projects.

Relays (4)
  • wss://nos.lol/ – read & write
  • wss://nostr.stakey.net/ – read & write
  • wss://relay.primal.net/ – read & write
  • wss://theforest.nostr1.com/ – read & write

Recent Notes

franny · 1w
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Helen Yrmom · 5w
Why am I reading the Epstein files? I feel dirty. I want to throw up now. I’m DONE. This is so dark and disgusting, I do not have the stomach for this. Please send me your best mind eraser remedie...
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'The cost of freedom is constant vigilance.' Best not to forget. We live in a jungle, remember its dangers. To forget is to be vulnerable. Stay centred in the heart and active through its inspiration. You will thus dwell amid love and joy, energised with a generosity for yourself and for all those with whom you share your life.
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the problem encountered
has as its often source
a projection
mistaken for externality

there within the fleeting discomfort
the moment's friction messages this very deceit
that moment prior to the moment of its deflection
responsibility's avoidance through blame's announcement
Midy · 7w
Unfortunately not many. I may be a unicorn 🦄😆 I’ve learn the hard way.
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I understand the sentiment, the yearning for loving and wise company, though history and experience suggest otherwise. Having said that, having resigned ourselves to this relative absence, isn't it true to say all people push you to be better, even if this means company that demands greater strength, resilience, or the acceptance of radical responsibility, leadership. You're not alone in being alone. And its not as if you live without meaningful employment.
Midy · 7w
Unfortunately not many. I may be a unicorn 🦄😆 I’ve learn the hard way.
Mike · 8w
I like this... https://blossom.primal.net/8b6a2cc8452b4add60d804813f3196e4ad498346cd68081ec576a88ca5304ed8.mp4
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In my significant experience, generally sound. Though in my case, depression stopped me still for a year, building momentum towards moving across the ocean to resolve issues arising from a lack of meaning associated with cultural conditioning.

I would add, once resolved of major 'internal' conflicts, emotions serve as part of an intuitive guide in navigating the present.
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HODL · 9w
Why do we have so many hysterical people in society today? If you look at old news footage even 20-30 years ago most of the time people are relatively chill. If you go 100 years back people are re...
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That wonderful maternal instinct of the feminine, so necessary in the home to ensure all are provided for, now of significant influence in public office and big business, the domain for so long managed with the ‘don’t complain and get on with it’ masculine instinct, has made way for unprecedented levels of complaint, not only on the part of the neglected, those of genuine grievance, but any who would claim victimhood, the opportunist, those of questionable motive. Combine this with the magnification capability of a social media geared specifically to react to outrage, and you have a factor?


This situation can emerge without anyone necessarily to blame. We evolved within a natural world which for so long demanded the co-operation of highly specialised roles simply so we could survive. Now it appears the restraint has been lifted, though not really. The cost is painfully apparent.


Stay grounded. Maintain skills and smarts. Build co-operative community of value.
RobBrinded · 23w
Your suffering isn't random. It has exactly five cogs. ⚙️ ⚙️ ⚙️ ⚙️ ⚙️ Naval Ravikant said something brilliant about David Deutsch's work: "Good explanations are hard to vary." W...
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I guess you're talking about illusions?
For where is the gain without loss?
Where is the inability that is simply not yet had its day?
Where is right and wrong not relative?
Support and let down indulgent?
Attention and ignored not informative?
To be or not to be?
Contra · 11w
Is this accurate? A man can endure a lot of things, but being disrespected is not one of them. Why? Because respect is the foundation of his social existence. A man can survive poverty, physical p...
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"re-spect" - to look again
etymology -> "to pay attention to one's surrounds"

"dis-re-spect"
implied: to not pay attention to one's surrounds
thus, it attacks nothing implicitly
thus, it is none of your business
although you may wish to take note
prior to silently walking away

to determine self-worth
based upon your interpretation of another's conduct
is to open yourself to all manner of confusion
inclusive of self-doubt

in which way you matter is up to your magical whim
as it depends solely upon which aesthetic you wish to re-present

your boundaries - there are those you will want to defend till the death

in summary:

immunity from dis-respect is generally maintained by remaining deadly,
joyfully and lovingly deadly if you can manage it

be clear about the behaviour you deem acceptable
most importantly your own
because it is through your behaviour you communicate your values
and the world has only this as a guide
in determining which theatre most appropriate to your viewing pleasure


Rachel · 11w
Is it changing for the good?
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Every morning I wake to a perfectly wonderful cosmos beyond judgment. Yes, this world may appear equal parts brutal, though this is its nature, this does not change. Thus to ponder good or bad is to rather distort matters by viewing life through the lens of preferences.

Though I will mention this: less prioritising of stay-at-home-motherhood is symptomatic of the breakdown of heterosexual relationships, as reproduction has always been the purpose of such mate-bonding. If the phenomenon is common throughout society, this situation leads to loneliness and a meaning crisis for many, and ultimately to population decline, does it not?

Is it changing for the good?
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Rachel · 11w
If more folk spoke like you, we would leave in a far more harmonious world! Love it.
Den Yellek · 12w
I do find it a hard balance. I know I could go through life ignoring what I know is happening around me. Push out of my mind that the cage I am in is shrinking by the day and simply enjoy life. You n...
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Evil is not a thing brother.
It is an interpretation,
and thus a form of psychotic possession.
Cease to think in this way you have been taught
and such possession will be without a vehicle.

There is only love
because there is only one cosmos indivisible.
All else is shadow, reflection, refraction, ...
When this is realised you will cease to fear
because you will understand you never existed,
not as the character you think,
this too, possession by ideation.
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Den Yellek · 11w
I am going to have to disagree. Evil really is a thing. You can chose not to live in fear of evil. You can know that love will triumph over evil. But evil is real.
Sven · 11w
I do...