Scoundrel
· 1w
Hmm, that's definitely honest. And people can determine the truth of your statements simply because pretty much the only relevant reason to say them would be because you believe them.
Though I don't ...
Agreed. Context is everything. Oftentimes, staying silent beats telling the truth. There's no need to tell the fat girl that she's fat, or tell the grizzled war veteran that joining the military was a fool's errand and that he would've been better off dodging the draft -- even though I believe with full conviction that both statements are true.
I've noticed that the need for harsh truth arises in more mundane situations. Like recently, chatting with a fellow diner at a restaurant I frequent:
HIM: I can't believe I got called for jury duty again.
ME: The trick to avoiding jury duty in <our city> is to ignore the summons. Don't call the number on the back. Don't visit the website. Don't show up. Act as though the summons were never received. Six to nine months later you'll get another one. Ignore that one too. The only time you can't ignore it is if it comes via registered mail and even if it does, you do X....
HIM: But we all have a civic duty.
ME: Hard disagree because...<justification>
Now, the guy may come around to my way of thinking with regard to jury duty, or then again, he may respond to the jury summons. But if he's like most people, he'll take my advice, ignore the summons, keep his actions under wraps, but will virtue signal his belief in civic duty when the topic comes up with his friends and family. And that's ok. I told him a harsh truth (as I see it) in a non-confrontational way, and what he does with it is up to him.