Your wife is tired of you passing her every little problem. Handle it yourself.

I hear them say it out loud - “I just want him to handle it. Just handle it.”

She wants you to step up.
She wants you to act like an adult.
She wants you to be free her of burden.

She doesn’t not have mental space to be your sexy plaything if she has to manage every aspect of your life.

Don’t ask her about it. Just handle it.

#women #responsibility

A woman is like a child who will never fully grow up. You must balance leadership, guidance, tenderness, discipline, and giving her autonomy in the right places.

Give her too much autonomy - when you stop leading and taking responsibility for all things - and the relationship will start to malfunction.

Be a constant guiding hand and oversee the directional steering of life - so she can be carefree - and her affection for you will continue to grow.

#women #relatioships

Your wife wants to feel cared for.

In an emergency, she wants you to take charge and speak with authority.

In day-to-day, she wants to feel that you are considering her, checking-in with her, tending to her.

Doing these things every day can reverse resentment and help you connect with her.

#women #relationships

When your wife expresses a disappoint or concern (complaint) the conversation can easily escalate into a real upset. Addressing the SOURCE of the complaint is an opportunity for #responsibility and helps her feel heard.

Every situation will be different and might not require all these steps.

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Example: You make the coffee every morning and today’s pot did not turn out well - real complaints here.

**Her** (complaint):
I don’t like this coffee you made.

**You** (clarification, if needed):
I’m sorry, what’s wrong with it?
[or skip directly to address concern, if you already know]

**Her** (concern):
It tastes weak, watered down, and we talked about this ahead of time

**You** (address concern):
Oh, I was trying a new method but I must have used too much water. [situation]

I will try a different ratio next time. [correction]

Can I make you a fresh cup? [offer]

**Her** (gratitude)
Yes, I would love that.

Probing for what she wants may cause her too much stress.

Look at the situation.
Make a plan.
You Say "I think we should ..."

She will accept or reject the plan but you have taken the burden of decision away from her.

#leadership #attraction

Stop burning unintended time in front of a screen.

If you have not set aside specific time, get up and start taking action.

If your action requires you to be at the computer and you are having trouble staying focused, implement tools to help you.

#responsibility #leadership

Husbands need to find a male support system - This could be a group of old friends or text group with dads of other kids.

It is vital that these men be in a similar family life stage as you - wife, kids age - but can have varying income or professional successes.

Gaining their trust and support may take time but having men to bounce questions is a great benefit to your personal journey of Responsibility and Leadership

#Responsibility #Leadership

Sunday is winding down.

How will you do better this week than you did last week?

#Responsibility #Leadership

Luxury and expectations increase each other in a cycle.

Any new luxury soon becomes an expectation.
Then requests for bigger luxuries arise.

Your own bedroom was once a luxury.
Your own apartment was once a luxury.
Now you want a home with five acres.

A husband who washes laundry is a luxury.
A husband who does dishes is a luxury.
Now she wants ???

#women #relationships

Women want to take care of men they are attracted to.

Women are not attracted to men that they NEED to take care of.

Want her to behave differently toward you?

Take responsibility for yourself and stop acting like another child she needs to take care of.

#responsibility #attraction

Tone matters.

You can say “You are an impatient child” two different ways.

One way will make you sound like a jerk.

Another way will make her putty your hand.

#attraction #women