Online discourse sucks because you can never just say a nuanced thing you always have to signal or counter signal. Because everyone else is trying to filter you into freind/enemy distinction. Exhausti...
Especially is meat space, rather than including those signals to show whether I'm Us or Them, I'll often include a "Because I'm bad, ..." or "..., because I'm bad." and it often leads to people being atypically open to nuance.