@nprofile1q... @nprofile1q... Father in law never really laid it out to mother in law that she is incapable of taking care of herself. So she is under the delusion that she's fine and he was just being nice doing all the stuff for her for the past few years.

Now wifey and I are faced with giving her a 1-2 gut punch of telling her she's not as independent as she thinks she is, all while she grieves her husband... and we have to keep doing it over and over again cuz she barely remembers the conversation several minutes later.

She thinks she can drive.
She thinks she can handle taking her meds.
She thinks she can handle her finances.

She can barely remember instructions for a few minutes.