So there's "convo with Bestie" (which does need to happen), but there is also declining to make myself smaller just for someone else's comfort.
I often adjust my behavior to avoid hurt feelings even ...
There are a couple instances I have been thinking about while I'm writing where it's like "oh, I probably should have just expected her to deal with it if her feelings got hurt."
I've been expanding someone else's "boundaries" into my own space. "Sure, go ahead, that's part of me you're invading, but if you would feel bad if I didn't go along with this, then I guess you can have it."
Where perhaps it would be more appropriate to say, "sorry, no, not doing that."
I've been expanding someone else's "boundaries" into my own space. "Sure, go ahead, that's part of me you're invading, but if you would feel bad if I didn't go along with this, then I guess you can have it."
Where perhaps it would be more appropriate to say, "sorry, no, not doing that."
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