This rumination started with a sex party, where I felt I was basically having to not participate in ways I wanted to because I was pretty sure that it would make Bestie/Fox feel like I was getting mor...
So there's "convo with Bestie" (which does need to happen), but there is also declining to make myself smaller just for someone else's comfort.
I often adjust my behavior to avoid hurt feelings even when I wouldn't actually be doing anything harmful, & if someone got hurt feelings, it would be because they had expected control over me that they shouldn't have in the first place.
I often adjust my behavior to avoid hurt feelings even when I wouldn't actually be doing anything harmful, & if someone got hurt feelings, it would be because they had expected control over me that they shouldn't have in the first place.
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